Happy new year, dear friends!
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again. ‘Resolution’ is a loaded word, especially at this time of year. Between being ‘healthier’, doing ‘more’ and becoming ‘better’, we talk at new year as though we’re all broken-down failures of human beings in need of fixing and mending and/or a stern, sharp kick up the backside.
We’re not. I’m not broken, you’re not broken. I don’t need fixing, and neither do you. You are already perfect.
And this open thread, this community tradition, is predicated on that statement.
But. But! Resolutions can also be fun. Goal-setting is fun. Stating intentions, declaring new directions, welcoming new hobbies or practices or habits or ideas into our lives, determining to grow and develop in special, meaningful ways …these are wonderful things to do, and right now there’s a beautiful collective vibe of change, of letting go of the old and bringing in the new.
So let’s talk all about it!
This time yesterday, I had a stack of resolutions and if I had chosen to commit them to paper, it would looked like a self-help to-do list (with a bunch of probably-expensive new hobbies thrown in for good measure).
Then I went on an impromptu silent retreat with a few friends, and boy did I get some clarity. Everything I had written, drawn, seen in the cards and pondered obsessively in recent weeks seemed to come together. I left with one statement, a mantra for the new year:
Claim your magic.
Claim my magic.
I’m tired of playing down my witchy self. Tired of mumbling half-arsed reasons why I don’t claim that label. Tired of making rituals and ceremonies ‘chilled’ and ‘fluid’ simply because I’m afraid to stand up and call in the elements and create and hold a truly sacred space. Tired of gifting my tinctures and elixirs and magical offerings with a self-deprecating, embarrassed shrug. Tired of letting bigoted comments pass because I’m afraid of my own voice and its power for change. Tired of being the nice girl. Tired of believing power and magic belongs to others and my role is to listen quietly and practice in secret and never tell a soul. Tired of pretending like magic isn’t an intimate part of the revolution. Tired of my internalised witchphobia, which serves no-one and keeps me small and harms what magic I do do.
Ready to claim my magic. Ready to raise my voice. Ready to own myself.
What does this look like? This resolution doesn’t lend itself to to-do-list -making, but examples that fill me with warmth (and, yes, fear) include co-hosting a wheel of the year group (something I’ve sought to do for years, but kept chickening out of), teaching tarot face-to-face (I nearly managed this in 2017, but it fell through), redefining poetry for myself, learning and critiquing my inherited history, performing my spells instead of just dreaming and sketching them, re-writing the folklore I’m reading to serve a queer feminist agenda, owning ‘witchy’, and getting comfortable with the sound of my own voice as an instrument of change.
Oh. And I also want to take a pottery class. And read more. And get out on my bike more. And…. oops :)
Over to you!
For the past few years, I’ve hosted a big old open thread here on the blog. I share my new year’s resolutions with you guys, and then you join in, sharing your own in the comments.
And then! You get a free one-card tarot reading!
This is a community effort. In order to share your own resolution, first, you have to pull a card for the commenter before you.
I know, I know – this is gonna be kinda chaotic. Some folks might get no replies and others might get several. It will probably be really hard to know who you’re supposed to be replying to. But it worked so very beautifully last year and I’m excited to try this again!
How to do this:
- Reply to the last commenter, (click the small ‘reply’ link below the last comment) drawing a tarot card for their resolution and giving a super short reading to help them achieve it (a couple of lines is fine).
- Then share your own resolution in a separate comment! (Using the ‘leave a reply’ box below, don’t reply to another commenter).
If it’s hard to work out who you should be replying to, you can find someone above you who doesn’t have a reply yet – or add a second reading to the one above you. It’s all good and I’ll make sure everyone gets a reading in the end! Don’t overthink it!