To cut off abusers is to be the Queen of Swords. To take care of ourselves by cutting off communication, and not necessarily dramatically. Sometimes there is nothing more to be said, and the most powerful statement is said with silence.
Many of us struggle to set the boundaries we need because we are scared we'll upset people and end up alone. In this piece andi explores how grieving can help us move from shame and guilt towards authentic connection.
Are you the human or the lion? Maranda re-imagines Strength as care & change.
"She told me that Saturn helps bring out the gold in all of us. And she’s right. Saturn has been weaving gold through me."
Though the Emperor represents society or 'the system', it necessarily contains within itself the potential for something better.
"The most effective boundaries that I've been able to enact in my life have all been: measurable, accountable, negotiable and communicable."
"I’m learning to trust myself and tell my own story. I’m learning to ask for what I need. I’m discovering more and more each day that I can’t do this work alone."
Discovering new resources, crafting new definitions, and building new tools - Andi shares their latest findings.
If those 'feel the fear' edgelands are where the real gold lies, I'm ready to get myself out there and find it.
Polar opposites of calm and chaos, of tranquility and stress, nature and junk, all part of the experience of settling in to a new life in a communal space and working towards balance and harmony.
The lesson of wild roses is complete love and acceptance, and their medicine can only go this deep because of the protection offered by the thorns.
As in, like, real people. Sitting in front of you. Live. If that thought terrifies you but you'd love to make the leap, get in here and let's talk about it.
this is a card for claiming space to think and be, for restoring mental energy or gearing up for what comes next. It's absolutely right to take some time alone to do this.
When your love life involves more than one partner, it can be extra-helpful to know who you are, what you're bringing and how you can best deal with the issues that can arise from loving and being loved by a number of people.
Reading tarot for your friends can be a complex thing, and it's worth figuring out some boundaries and ground rules first.
I often see the Two of Swords as being emotionally closed-off, self-protective to the point of a deep and solitary sadness. But Dolores takes a kinder approach in her description of this card, suggesting that this woman has purposefully and perhaps wisely withdrawn in order to think through a difficult predicament.
What one card would you pick for being alone? For loving yourself, for being happy in your own company? I’ve just got home from a one-act, one-actor, one-monologue play by Jaye Kearney; it’s called One. In it, the one character, a ‘singleton’, talks us through the thoughts, the insecurities, the inner demons and finally the defiant …
Whether they intend it or not, other people have the power to hurt us. ‘Hurt people hurt people’, as they say – and there are times when it’s neccessary to protect ourselves from the pain of others. There are plenty of ways to do this. For the magikally inclined, spells, visualisations and rituals can help. …